Well first off sorry for the long absence things have just been going on and on, and yes I am still alive.
So I was in the youth service tonight and it was alright I guess. The subject matter I must confess was at least at first a little hard for me to sit through. You see it was about significant others and all that. Well the leader asked a bunch of questions about significant others and I didn't raise my hand for any of them, and for good reason as one who has never had a Significant other the questions really didn't apply to me.
Here comes the hard part though the other half of the room for some reason thought that we either were not participating or whatever which is fine by and large if thats what you're doing. Trust me I am not given to really care what most people think, but the kicker here was that, even if to answer a question in a negative way, it would have felt good to at least be able to answer at least one truthfully.
Don't get me wrong I fully endorse going over such things in a church setting because we all know that we get far too much input on such matters from the world and hardly any from the church. I just mean how long must a person hold on to hope for things to happen until they have to let go.
The leader said something that on the one hand gave me hope but on the other made me angry, he said "I believe that everyone has someone out there for them." This may not be word for word as he said but its close enough. The reason this statement makes me angry is the fact that I'm like wait how long does someone have to wait to see any movement in this area.
Don't get me wrong I'm not opposed to waiting it just seems like that area has died for me there seems to be not even breathe of life left in it. I don't ask for much just something to tell me that hope isn't dead yet. I don't know maybe its the holiday season that has such thoughts on my mind for they were there before the message tonight, or maybe I've finally gone crazy, I almost wish for that then at least I'd have a reason to be this way.
Well thats what's on my mind as of now, sorry its kind of sad, but I did promise honesty didn't I.
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I thought you died!
First no blogging, then no phone! I mean, even if I see you in person, it doesn't mean much!
There were a few things that I kinda-sorta disagreed with tonight. I don't know if I'm going to get into them here (I don't want it to even appear that I'm diminishing was he was saying). Still, I want to touch on something.
The way the church (in general) tells people how to have relationships is confusing, awkward and unrealistic.
Relationships with other people is more or less a skill that can be honed just like anything else. Some people have the natural talent, and others have a natural awkwardness. I was awkward with everyone for such a long time (and I'm sure you remember me all throughout school), but I eventually started trying different things, changing my methods, and other things and life changed.
I feel on my face hard once or twice while trying to get things right, but it's something that require work to get.
It required doing things at times I didn't want to do anything and being with people (at times) that I didn't want to be around, but eventually my social life (in all aspects) picked up.
I don't want you to leave a church service (I don't want *anyone* to leave a church service) thinking "I'm abnormal and there's not much hope for me." I think that's a lie from the devil.
You said: "The reason this statement makes me angry is the fact that I'm like wait how long does someone have to wait to see any movement in this area."
You have to make something move. It's your job. If you wait and nod nothing, nothing will happen. If you have orders directly from God telling you to wait, then by all means, wait, otherwise, you have the power to change things in your life.
I'm not saying you can become president, but I am saying you can improve the parts of your life that you feel lacking in though the power of God and the effort of your own hands.
I want you to leave with hope!!
-Brett
I think sometimes church does a not-so-good job when discussing relationships. I'm not commenting on tonight (since I wasn't there . . . I was with the old folks) so much as church in general. For instance, we split Sunday School classes up into "singles" and "young marrieds" and automatically view the "singles" as more immature and abnormal . . . let's be honest, the whole point of a single's class is to hook everyone up so they can be married. It's a hurry-up-and-get-out-of-here class. Churches also usually focus their attention on young families while ignoring singles and view marriage as inherently better than non-marriage which is not a very good New Testament view (or an historical Christian view). I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes church can make those who are single feel awkward, and I think that's a shame.
It's good to see you post again, Roger. I've missed Blogging Roger.
Holy Blogging Rogers, Batman!
Also, I have about 20,000 typos in that first comment. I thought I would note that I see at least 10,000 of them.
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